All disappointment in your life comes from your unfulfilled wishes. You want to get that job, but you don’t. You want to win that woman or man over, but you fail to do so. The formula for causing disappointment is simple, "you want x, but you get y".

The most popular answer to this problem is to lower your expectations. "Expect nothing and you will never be disappointed." How often have you heard this misguided advice?

To expect nothing is to give up control over your life. You need to be the actor AND director of your story. Setting your goals is the way through which you do that. It will not always go as planned, and that is okay. What is not okay is to not have planned it in the first place. 0% expectations = 100% apathy, and an apathetic life is a life not worth living.

To get what you want, you have to deserve what you want. The world is not yet a crazy enough place to reward a whole bunch of undeserving people. --- Charles Munger

What Munger, is echoing with this, is the Law of Attraction. Regardless of whether you will believe that such a law exists is besides the point. What is crucial is understanding the concept.

The Law of Attraction is a mechanism through which people can get what they want out of life.

This Law is much simpler than any other laws you might’ve heard of - if you want to achieve something don’t waste your efforts to aggressively chase for it, instead focus most of your energy on becoming the person towards which that thing will be attracted to.

This is of course, all a matter of perspective. What I will describe as becoming the type of person towards which a thing will be attracted, some might view as an aggressive pursuit of a goal. Therefore, the importance is all placed on how you approach your desires - what your mentality is. As long as you think of things from the right angle, it doesn’t matter how it might look like from the outside. You will get results.

Have you ever noticed that the more desperately you wish for something, the more it seems to slip away?

Lets imagine for a moment that you want more exciting friends. What are you to do about this?

One option is to desperately start searching for people who are more exciting. You look for them everywhere, maybe you even meet a few. You try to hit it off with them, but things don’t go as planned. And the more you become obsessed with this goal, the more you lose touch with your current friends. Soon you are left with no friends at all, let alone any exciting friends. The plan has backfired.

The other option is that you approach your desire from the perspective of the Law of Attraction. Instead of desperately searching for more exciting friends, you think, ’How do I become a person, whom exciting people will want to befriend?’ And make no mistake, if you don’t have exciting friends already, then you are almost certainly not one yourself. So the way to get to you goal becomes, ’I should be more exciting myself’, instead of ’I should be searching harder for exciting people’.

Perhaps the main benefit of the Law of Attraction is the feelings it creates. Adopting this mentality will make you more peaceful. You don’t have to feel as if you are sprinting, chasing after what you want. Instead, you are slowly progressing to the version of yourself, when that thing will come on its own. You don’t have to worry, you just have to work and wait. You just have to be deserving.

So, you begin doing more exciting things. You open up your shell and talk to more people randomly. You experiment more. You have more fun. You join a club. You start doing an outdoors activity. You go to places where exciting people go. You become deserving of those people. Soon, you will see that they start finding you.

Once you align to the things you want, the opportunities will appear and you will be there, waiting. Waiting to seize the moment.

Let’s say that you are disappointed with the people you are dating.

Why do all these weirdos always find you? The Law of Attraction has an interesting answer - perhaps, you are not yet deserving of anyone better.

You want the best! ...but, are you the best? Why would the best want you, if you aren’t? Are you a person towards whom the best boyfriend/girlfriend would be attracted to?

Nothing happens without you working for it. So, if having the best boyfriend/girlfriend is a goal that you have, then work on yourself first. Don’t focus on chasing after the best. Focus instead on your skills, expanding your knowledge and learning new things. Exercise more. Become more aware. Work on your success. Soon a better person will emerge for you.

What if you goal is to make more money?

Become the person towards whom money will be attracted.

First become a person that respects money. Then, learn how people with a lot of money act. Do the same. Respect your possessions, show them the respect they deserve and they will be fruitful and multiply.

Invest money, don’t spend them. Don’t look for where you can skim cents off the dollar, instead look for ways you can become more valuable to others. If there is an investment in yourself you can do, that will help you a ton, but is expensive, do it anyway. Don’t be penny wise and dollar foolish. Always ask yourself how you can put your money, and your time, to good use.

The Law of Attraction is the most fundamental natural law you will ever learn. If you start thinking of your life in that perspective everything begins to change. Most remarkably, you begin to accept more responsibility. That is an extremely powerful enabler for you to achieve your goals. Once you accept more responsibility you have more ownership, you have more incentive, and thus, you have higher motivation.

Adopt this approach, and it will be a matter of time until slowly, effortlessly, calmly, surely, the things you want start entering your life.